And let's just unpack that concept for a second, okay? I think it's really easy to get overwhelmed, not just around the holidays, but any old day, by the idea of "extra." In a very confusing and increasingly digital world, it's easy to conflate the simple idea of "going above and beyond" with "making things IG worthy," or trying too hard to impress. The former is a way to show guests love by giving a little extra time, everybody's most valuable resource, to make a gathering special for the people who are actually there. The latter is a mentally damaging cycle of unattainable perfectionism, which has more to do with how your gathering will look on Facebook afterwards than how enjoyable it was in real time.